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Jennifer & Marc: A Real-Life Love Story

Marc Süselbeck with the woman he loved – his fiancée Jennifer Laude   (before her savage and senseless murder by a US Marine)

An open letter to the bashers/detractors of murdered transgender Jennifer Laude, from her fiancé Marc Süselbeck

Following is a compilation of messages from Marc Süselbeck received by one Jennifer’s friends. Apparently Marc does not have a Facebook account but wanted to respond to some of the vile comments that he’s heard since Jennifer’s death. An update about Marc’s status and some final comments follow.

Posted on Facebook on October 8, 2014

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As if things couldn’t get any worse, Marc will not be able to return to the Philippines to visit Jennifer’s grave or to see her family:

 

Halloween deportation for Sueselbeck

Posted at 10/31/2014 2:56 PM | Updated as of 10/31/2014 3:40 PM

MANILA – The German fiance of slain transgender Jennifer Laude will leave the country tomorrow after his request for voluntary deportation was granted by the Bureau of Immigration.

Marc Sueselbeck will leave the country for Frankfurt, Germany.

His lawyer, Harry Roque, said Sueselbeck will hold a press conference prior to his departure.

Because of his voluntary deportation, Sueselback will be blacklisted and will no longer be allowed to return to the Philippines.

Sueselbeck was prevented from leaving the country last Sunday to face deportation proceedings for being an undesirable alien.

Last week, Sueselbeck and Laude’s sister Marilou climbed a perimeter fence inside Camp Aguinaldo in their search for US Marine Joseph Scott Pemberton, the suspect in Laude’s killing.

Sueselbeck later apologized for his actions and said he is not a threat to the Philippines.

http://www.abs-cbnnews.com/nation/10/31/14/halloween-deportation-sueselbeck

 

To report an incident of violence anywhere in the world, contact the Trans Violence Tracking Portal here.

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Besides the horrible violence of this case, which tends, unfortunately, to be the case for many murders committed against transgender persons worldwide, there are 2 things that have struck me about Jennifer and Marc:

  1. I cannot help but be in awe of Jennifer’s beauty. There is something about her pictures that makes it very difficult for me to tear my eyes away.  It’s more than about what Jennifer looked like – it’s something about her. After reading the above comments from Marc and seeing the picture of Jennifer and Marc together, I think I know what it is…blank for blog
  2.  Marc loved Jennifer.  Just how much he loved her is reflected in his writing, the way he looked at her and the radiance in her face in the photographs of her.  Not everyone gets the opportunity to experience that kind of love, and it often doesn’t come around more than once in a lifetime.  It seems pretty clear that Marc felt lucky to have met and loved Jennifer; I wonder whether anyone has ever or will ever tell Marc how lucky Jennifer was to have had his love – not because she was trans — but because he seems to be a genuinely loving and caring man and any (non-lesbian) woman would be lucky to have him.

 

 

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Flies Eat Shit, Frogs Eat Flies But… Kermit Won’t Eat at Chick-Fil-A

I usually stick to posting strictly trans-related material here, but I really like Kermit.  

Jim Henson’s Muppets Split With Chick-Fil-A Over Gay Rights

Reprinted from ABC News
By Annie Rose
Jul 23, 2012 4:58pm

A Chick-fil-A in Atlanta. Mike Stewart/AP Photo

Customers going to Chick-fil-A in search of a Muppets-inspired toy along with their Chick-n-Strips will be greatly disappointed.  The toys are no more.  The Jim Henson Company, founded by the creator of The Muppets, has severed all ties with Chick-fil-A and announced on its Facebook page that “we do not wish to partner with them on any future endeavors.”

The Jim Henson Company had formed a partnership with Chick-fil-A at the beginning of summer in order to feature Jim Henson’s Creature Shop toys in kids’ meals from July until Aug. 18. Then, Chick-fil-A’s president, Dan McCarthy, announced his support of Christian organizations that oppose gay marriage.

In an interview with The Baptist Press earlier this month, McCarthy was upfront: “We are very much supportive of the family  — the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that,” said McCarthy.

A report from the LGBT advocacy group Equality Matters said that Chick-fil-A donated more than $3 million from 2003 to 2009 to Christian groups that oppose homosexuality. The company then escalated its donations, giving $2 million to such causes in 2010 alone, according to Equality Matters.

On its Facebook page, The Jim Henson Company mentions its CEO, Lisa Henson, as a “strong supporter of gay marriage.”

The Jim Henson Company says it will be donating its final residual check from Chick-fil-A to the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation.   http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2012/07/jim-hensons-muppets-split-with-chick-fil-a-over-gay-rights/

The Jim Henson Company’s announcement on Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/notes/the-jim-henson-company/july-20-2012/10150928864755563

Muppets Don’t Tolerate Bigotry!

Reprinted from:   The Solipsistic Me
Michael Hulshof-Schmidt’s Musings About the World We Live In
July 23, 2012

As Chick-Fil-A continuesto spew its ugly venom at the LGBTQ community, The Jim Henson Company has said ENOUGH to hate and has broken ties with the homophobic fried chicken Dwarf House. Chick-Fil-A has a long-standing history of bigotry and homophobia; it is nice to see the Jim Henson Company demonstrate integrity by divorcing themselves from the squawker of oppression.

Henson Company released the following statement regarding the termination of the relationship:

The Jim Henson Company has celebrated and embraced diversity and inclusiveness for over fifty years and we have notified Chick-Fil-A that we do not wish to partner with them on any future endeavors. Lisa Henson, our CEO is personally a strong supporter of gay marriage and has directed us to donate the payment we received from Chick-Fil-A to GLAAD. (http://www.glaad.org/)

TSM also has to give kudos to Boston Mayor Thomas Menino for his strong stand by vowing to not allow the chicken peddlers to open a franchise in Boston. With each voice and each act of integrity, we move toward equality and leave those that oppress us on the wrong side of history!   http://hulshofschmidt.wordpress.com/2012/07/23/muppets-dont-tolerate-bigotry/

Here are some pictures that have started circulating on Facebook since the Jim Henson Company announced its intention to terminate its relationship with Chick-fil-H8:

Boycott

It’s really too bad about Chick-fil-A being so full of hate.  I’ve been boycotting them for more than a year because of the CEO’s support of anti-LGBT hate groups, such as NOM, but I really love their sandwiches, unhealthy as they may be (what fast food isn’t unhealthy?!)    Last year someone told me that a specialty sandwich at McDonald’s tasted “exactly like” CFA’s chicken sandwich.  It did not.  But I found this video today, and although I have not yet tried this recipe, I thought I’d post a link to a video that demonstrates how to make it; the ingredients are listed on youtube with the video.  Click on the link to watch it:

Chick-Fil-Gay Sandwich

I think Kermit T. Frog has always been a friend to LGBT people.  Why else would he sing about rainbows? 😉

Click on the picture of Kermit T. Frog below to hear his rendition of the Academy Award-winning song for Best Song in 1979, “Why are There So Many Songs About Rainbows?”  It is sung by Kermit as the movie’s opening number and reprised by the whole cast of Muppets at the end of the movie. The single of this song reached #25 on Billboard’s “Hot 100 Singles” chart in 1979.

Why are There So Many Songs About Rainbows

Why are there so many songs about rainbows and what’s on the other side?
Rainbows are visions, but only illusions, and rainbows have nothing to hide.
So we’ve been told and some choose to believe it.
I know they’re wrong wait and see.

Someday we’ll find it, the rainbow connection.
The lovers, the dreamers and me.
Who said that wishes would be heard and answered when wished on the morningstar?

Someone thought of that and someone believed it.
Look what it’s done so far.
What’s so amazing that keeps us stargazing and what do we think we might see?

Someday we’ll find it, the rainbow connection.
The lovers, the dreamers and me.
All of us under its spell.
We know that it’s probably magic.
Have you been half asleep and have you heard voices?
I’ve heard them calling my name.

Is this the sweet sound that calls the young sailors.
The voice might be one and the same.

I’ve heard it too many times to ignore it.
It’s something that I’m supposed to be.

Someday we’ll find it, the rainbow connection, the lovers, the dreamers and me.
Someday we’ll find it, the rainbow connection, the lovers, the dreamers and me.

“I Don’t Love You Because of Who You Are”

“I Don’t Love You Because of Who You Are” is the worst thing a parent can say to their transgender child, no matter how old the “child.”  Trans* people rejected by their parents are 4 times more likely to attempt suicide and 2 times more likely to become HIV infected.

A report on some of the youngest transgender kids, including a six-year-old girl who was born a boy, a 10-year-old boy who lives as a girl and a 16-year-old-boy who was born a girl. Barbara Walters talks to these transgender children, all diagnosed with gender identity disorder (GID), as well as to their parents, who are allowing their children to live in the gender they identify with in order to save them from a future of heartache and pain. They are sharing their personal stories to increase future understanding of transgender children.  Aired 27th April 2007.  http://www.squidoo.com/my-daughter-dresses-like-a-boy#module160154150

Click on the thumbnail to watch each video:

          Part 1                          Part 2                         Part 3

                          

Somebody to Love


The following post is reblogged from Suzan‘s post “Somebody to Love” from her blog Women Born Transsexual.

Somebody to Love

07/03/2012 — Suzan

I was thirteen when my parents first busted me for dressing up.

I learned a lot of new mean sounding words that night, words that were a lot meaner even than sissy.

I learned that it was expected that I would grow up queer and that expectation was reason enough for my parents to start withholding love and affection.

I was such an obvious transkid every  move I made, every thing I liked was cause for suspicion.

I got busted a lot over the next few years.

In 1962, I was 15. They found my clippings of April Ashley’s tabloid biography. They confronted me with it and I came out as transsexual for the first time.

My parents told me at that point:

“If you decide to be like that when you grow up, no one will ever love you, not a man, not a woman, not even queer men or women… No one.”

I was already experiencing the intense loneliness of being a small town transkid.

But I grew up cute and it was the era of free love and if there was one thing I found in great plenitude it was people to have sex with if not give me love.  CONTINUE…

Questions & Answers in Response to Previous Blog Entry

In response to the original Facebook post of 2. Daphne, I received the following (some editing done) from someone (“M”) who preferred to remain anonymous.  I marked questions/issues that will be addressed with bracketed numbers, starting with [1]:
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I had a guy a few years ago (before i was out) [as a cisgender lesbian] that would come into where i worked and was always trying to get me to go out with him was definitely not my type 

1) he was 30 and almost as bald as a 80-year-old,
2) he was only about 4’7″
3) something just didn’t feel right about him
4) he had 4 kids (wasn’t ready for that either) apparently his wife had left him and the kids

but still that something i really didn’t understand what it was until he asked me to meet him at the movie theater one day after work so being the nice person i am i said ok. well the day i was supposed to meet him at the movies he stopped by to make sure i was still going. when he walked through the door he had on high heals and a skirt. i didn’t say any thing because i’m not rude like that. he then looked down and said oh dammit i forgot i had this on and proceeded to tell me that he liked to wear womens cloths.
Continue…

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